A few of my friends recently had or are about to have their first baby and have asked me if I had any book recommendations. I didn’t read many books in preparation for Alexandra’s arrival, but I did read a few that I found helpful that I thought I would share with you. We applied the principles suggested in these books with all of our children and they worked well for us. Alexandra and Madeleine both fell quickly into a feeding and sleeping routine and both were sleeping through the night around the time they reached 8 weeks old. Malcolm also fell into a feeding and sleeping routine quickly, but he continued to wake once a night for a feeding and then would go right back to sleep until he was about 6 months old and on solid foods. All three of our children go to sleep easily in the evenings and sleep about 12-13 hours each night with out waking.
First, a disclaimer, the ideas in these books fit in with Malcolm and my parenting style, but may not fit into your vision of parenting. Also, as with anything, use a little common sense when applying the theories suggested in the books. Not everything is going to work for all parents or all babies.
This book helped me understand how to set up a feeding and sleeping schedule. As a soon to be new mom, I had no idea what to do with a newborn. I had seen other new moms frazzled because they never knew when their newborns needed to eat or sleep and thus felt overwhelmed planning their days. I knew I needed a schedule so I could go about life, but I didn’t know where to start.
There is a lot of controversy surrounding this book as some believe it is to strict and unloving. As with anything, I think if you apply a little common sense to the principles outlined in this book and remember that all babies are different, and as a parent you need to be flexible at times, I think you can find success utilizing the ideas in this book.
This book taught me how to recognize a baby’s sleep clues. It helped me learn that if my child seems tired I have already missed her vital sleep cues and she is now overtired; therefore, she is going to have a more difficult time falling asleep. It talks about the importance of teaching your children how to learn to fall asleep on their own. This book combines discussions of sleep research with practical how-to information.
This is a book, but it also has a video version which is what I watched. This video discusses and demonstrates five techniques to soothe and calm your baby. The five techniques are known as the “5 S’s”. They are Swaddle, Stomach/Side Position, Shushing, Swinging, and Sucking. In the book, the author goes into more detail about each technique. We have utilized the 5 S’s with all of our children with great success.
Which parenting books have you found helpful?