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15 Practical Tools to Help Manage Anxiety as a Mom

In today's world, mom anxiety isn't just common—it's practically a given. From doom-scrolling sessions that make you want to snatch your kid from public school and never look back to the daily responsibilities that flash before your eyes each morning and make you want to cringe, it seems wherever you go, there anxiety is.

Why would you have any reason to believe that there's a capacity within you to regain control when you can't even get your toddler to sit still for one meal?

It's fair to feel this way. As moms, we can't control much of what happens around us. If we try, it often only backfires, fueling our anxiety further.

But here's the empowering truth: you can influence your internal landscape, and that's what managing anxiety is all about. Not controlling everything—but accepting and navigating your thoughts and feelings, even amid chaos.

This blog is your toolkit for doing just that. We're diving into 15 practical strategies designed to help you manage anxiety, tailored specifically for the unique challenges moms face.

Practical Tools for Managing Mom Anxiety

You know that feeling—constant on edge like you're always waiting for the other shoe to drop. The irritation that bubbles up over the smallest things. That panicky sensation in your chest when you think about all you have to do. The worry that never quite lets you rest, even when everything seems fine.

As we explore these 15 tools, you'll find a mix of strategies to manage these feelings. Some, like deep breathing exercises, can offer immediate relief when anxiety strikes. Others, such as establishing a consistent routine (within reason), are more of a long-term practice that builds resilience over time.

The beauty is that every tool, whether it provides instant calm or gradual improvement, contributes to your overall well-being. The key is to experiment, be patient with yourself, and build a personalized toolkit that works for you.

Quick Calming Techniques for Immediate Relief

These techniques provide fast relief and can be used in moments of acute anxiety to help calm your mind and body:

1. Deep Breathing Exercises

Deep breathing is a powerful tool that's always available to you. These simple techniques can help calm your nervous system and reduce anxious thoughts in minutes.

- 4-7-8 method: Inhale quietly through your nose for 4 seconds, hold your breath for 7, then exhale completely through your mouth for 8. Repeat this cycle four times.

- Box breathing (4-4-4): Inhale for 4 seconds, hold for 4, exhale for 4, then hold for 4 before starting the next cycle.

Incorporating these breathing exercises into your daily routine can lower your heart rate and blood pressure, reduce stress hormone levels, improve your ability to handle stressful situations, and enhance focus and concentration.

2. Creative Outlets

Engaging in creative activities can be a healthy distraction. Creativity can induce a state of flow where you're fully absorbed in an activity rather than your anxious thoughts.

- Visual arts: Painting, drawing, or adult coloring books for stress relief.

- Music: Playing an instrument, singing, or listening to calming tunes.

- Crafts: Knitting, crocheting, scrapbooking, or any hands-on activity that engages your creativity.

3. Grounding Techniques

When anxiety threatens to overwhelm you, grounding practices engage your senses, redirecting your focus from anxious thoughts to your immediate surroundings.

The 5-4-3-2-1 technique is particularly effective:

- Identify 5 things you can see

- 4 things you can touch

- 3 things you can hear

- 2 things you can smell

- 1 thing you can taste

This method helps anchor you in the here and now, interrupting the cycle of anxious thinking. You can practice this anywhere, making it a versatile tool for managing sudden bouts of anxiety.

4. Progressive Muscle Relaxation

Progressive Muscle Relaxation (PMR) is a technique that helps release physical tension that often accompanies anxiety. It involves consciously tensing and then relaxing different muscle groups in your body.

Here's a simple way to practice PMR:

- Start with your toes, tensing them for 5 seconds, then releasing.

- Move up to your calves, then thighs, and continue up your body.

- End with tensing and relaxing the muscles in your face.

You become more aware of the physical sensations tied to tension by focusing on the contrast between that and relaxation, helping you reduce anxiety and promote overall relaxation.

5. Creating a List of Pleasurable Activities

This tool, borrowed from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), involves creating an extensive list of activities that bring you joy or comfort. Having this list ready makes it easier to engage in mood-boosting activities when anxiety strikes.

Some ideas for your list:

- Baking your favorite cookies

- Watching a beloved movie

- Taking a nature walk

- Calling a close friend

Keep this list handy—on your phone or posted somewhere visible. When you're anxious, choose an activity from your list to help shift your focus and mood.

Building Resilience with Long-Term Practices

These strategies require consistent practice but have more lasting effects on managing anxiety over time, helping to build emotional resilience:

6. Mindfulness Meditation

Mindfulness helps you stay present instead of worrying about the past or future. It's about observing your thoughts and feelings without expectations or judgment.

- Focus on the here and now, using your senses to ground yourself.

- Try a mindful walking exercise: Take a walk and pay attention to the sensation of your feet touching the ground, noticing the sights, sounds, and smells around you.

- If you're new to meditation or need guidance, apps like Headspace and Calm offer guided meditations specifically designed to ease anxiety.

7. Behavioral Activation

Behavioral activation is a strategy that counters anxiety by encouraging activities that bring about positive feelings. When we're anxious, we often withdraw from activities we enjoy, which can create a cycle of negativity.

To practice behavioral activation:

- Identify activities that typically make you feel good or accomplished

- Schedule these activities into your week, even if you don't feel motivated

- Start small—even 10 minutes of a pleasant activity can make a difference

- Gradually increase how long or often you spend doing these activities

This technique helps break the cycle of avoidance and gives your brain something positive to focus on, potentially reducing anxious feelings over time.

8. Establishing a Routine

Creating a more consistent routine can bring a sense of predictability to your life, which can significantly reduce anxiety. When we know what to expect (logistically, at least), our brains don't have to work as hard to prepare for potential threats.

Consider structuring your routine around:

- Wake-up and bedtime rituals

- Meal planning and preparation

- Designated work or productivity hours

- Family time and personal time

I know you know this, Mama, but life with kids is unpredictable, and a too-rigid routine can become a source of stress rather than relief. Be sure to leave room for flexibility.

9. Say "No" More than Think You Do

Learning to set boundaries and say no to commitments that overwhelm you – or simply do not interest you – is crucial for managing anxiety.

- Before agreeing to something, ask yourself if it aligns with your current priorities and energy levels

- Practice polite ways to decline invitations or requests

- Remember, saying no to one thing means saying yes to something else—often your peace of mind

10. Identify Negative Thought Patterns with Cognitive Reframing

Cognitive reframing is a powerful technique to shift your perspective on anxiety-provoking situations. It involves examining your thoughts objectively and challenging negative or distorted beliefs.

Here's how to practice cognitive reframing:

- Identify the negative thought (e.g., "I'm a terrible mother because I lost my temper")

- Question the evidence for and against this thought

- Consider alternative perspectives to develop a more balanced, realistic thought (e.g., "All parents lose their temper sometimes; it doesn't define my overall parenting")

By consistently challenging these distortions, you can begin to think—and feel—differently about yourself and your experiences.

Hybrid Strategies: Immediate Comfort, Long-Term Benefits

These tools offer both immediate comfort and ongoing benefits as they become part of your routine:

11. Journaling

Writing is like giving your anxious mind a place to unload. Aside from providing an emotional release, you can identify patterns in your anxiety triggers that can lead to problem-solving as you articulate your concerns.

- Free writing: Set a timer for 5-10 minutes to write without censoring yourself.

- Structured prompts: Use questions like "What's worrying me most right now?" or "What would make today great?" to guide your writing.

- Gratitude journaling: Write down three things you're thankful for each day, big or small.

12. Exercise

Physical activity is a powerful anxiety-buster as it releases endorphins, nature's mood elevators, to help reduce anxiety and stress. As a busy mom, you don't need to commit to lengthy workout sessions to reap the benefits.

Consider these manageable ways to incorporate exercise into your routine:

- Take a brisk 20-minute walk

- Do a short yoga session (even 10 minutes can make a difference)

- Try bodyweight exercises like squats or push-ups while watching TV

Remember, any movement is better than none. The goal is to make movement a regular part of your life in a way that fits your schedule and preferences.

13. Gradual Exposure Practice

Anxiety often grows when we avoid what scares us. Gradual exposure involves confronting your fears in small, manageable steps. This technique helps your brain learn that the feared situation isn't as overwhelming as it feels.

Here's how to practice:

- Identify a situation that causes you anxiety

- Break it down into multiple less intimidating steps

- Start with the least anxiety-provoking step and gradually work your way up

For example, if social situations cause anxiety, you might start by saying hello to a mom you regularly see at school or daycare drop-off, then progress to short conversations, and eventually even ask her to grab a coffee sometime!

14. Social Support

Like anxiety, social isolation is practically inherent to mom life. The problem? It's social isolation that makes mom life challenges all the more difficult to manage. Connecting with others – especially other moms who get it – can be a powerful anxiety antidote.

- Join a local mom's group or online community

- Schedule regular catch-ups with friends, even if it's just a quick phone call

- Consider starting a book club or hobby group with other parents

15. All-Around Mindful Consumption

What we consume—both physically and mentally—can significantly impact our anxiety levels, often in ways we don't immediately recognize. It's not just about what we put into our bodies - like the caffeine or sugar that can exacerbate anxiety symptoms and mood swings - but also what we allow into our minds.

Some things to consider:

- Be mindful of your media diet—constant news or social media scrolling can increase anxiety

- Set specific times to check emails or social media, avoiding the temptation to stay connected constantly

- Use app blockers during designated "off" hours to create tech-free zones in your day

- Curate your social media feed to include more positive, supportive content

You're going to have days where you just need coffee. I get it, and I'm not asking you to refrain from your needs but to strive for balance.

Start with what's achievable, like a calming activity instead of checking your phone when you wake up to set a more peaceful tone for the day ahead. By being intentional about your all-around consumption, you can reduce familiar sources of modern anxiety and create more space for calm in your day.

Anxiety Support for Moms in Texas

Managing anxiety as a mom is an ongoing journey, not a destination. While these 15 tools offer a starting point, sometimes we need additional support. If anxiety is significantly impacting your daily life or parenting, it may be time to consider professional help.

In my counseling practice in Houston, I provide a supportive environment where we can work together to develop personalized strategies for managing your anxiety. We'll identify triggers, practice new responses, and create healthy boundaries tailored to your unique circumstances. I understand that therapy can feel daunting, but I'll be with you every step, offering guidance and accountability as you move towards lasting peace of mind and joy in daily living.

I offer both in-person sessions in Houston and online therapy across Texas. You don't have to navigate this journey alone. Book a free consultation today and take the next step towards a calmer, more balanced you.